Codependant

Codependent behavior is a mentality that's sticken households across the country. Do you think you may be codependent? If so, there are plenty of options for you to consider when it comes to getting help. However, before you know where to turn, you must first learn how codependency works and where it originates from.

Codependent behavior is commonly established from childhood abuse, especially in dysfunctional households. The child, wishing to avoid punishment, rejection, disapproval, or abandonment, seeks to predict the needs and whims of the parent in an attempt to prevent abusive behavior. Another sign of a codependent child is one who blindly agrees with everything his or her parent says rather than risk a confrontation.

Unfortunately, codependent children often grow up to be codependent adults, and may of them don't realize that there is anything wrong at all. Do you find yourself eager to please your partner in any way possible? Would you do absolutely anything to keep your partner from leaving you, even if it compromised your physical health or mental well being? This codependent behavior is rooted in the fear of abandonment and in self loathing. For the codependent victim, nothing they do is ever good enough.

Another side effect of codependent behavior is the tendency to want to be in control. This type of codependent victim assumes that he or she can predict the needs of those around them to the point where they often give unwanted advice or insist on dictating their partner's whims, to the point of deciding for them what they should eat or what they should wear. When their demands or suggestions aren't met, they are often angry, resentful, and sad.

If either of these scenarios sounds familiar to you, it would behoove you greatly to seek help. With so many counselors, therapists, and 12 step programs available, you are certain to find one that's perfect for you, whether you decide for yourself or you decide to go with your partner. If left unattended, many codependents seek other forms of distractions, such as spending money, videogames, the internet, gambling, and others. In time, they become just as dependent on these distractions as they were on their initial codependent behavior.

Learn more today about how you can cure your codependence and live a happier, healthier life. With time, patience and hard work, you will realize you don't need to validate your existence to anyone. Take charge of your life today and ask your therapist about what options are available for you.